In family constellation work, the fundamental understanding is that families have an unconscious mind and soul — an invisible blueprint — that travels across generations. We are deeply bonded to family members we may not have even known — for example, a parent's early deceased sibling, or our grandparents' previous partners, or an earlier family member's stillborn, aborted, or miscarried child.

Orders of Love is the term used to name these powerful forces that guide and influence our lives by Bert Hellinger, German psychotherapist and former priest.

The guiding forces in our lives include:

Parents give & children take
Everyone belongs in the family
Relationships require a balance of give & take

Many families operate in ways that violate these natural laws — because of deeply unconscious patterns, loyalty to family secrets, and tragic losses that make grieving difficult.

There are universal truths that connect all of us to one another

Each family also has its own story that makes it unique. By restoring balance to the orders of love our personal suffering and unhappiness can be transformed into a force for healing.

Families have an unconscious mind and soul that travel across generations and entangle those who follow in the fates of those who came before us. All members of a family are deeply bonded to each other in love and loyalty. This bonding love may cause us to invite disease, suffering, depression, relationship struggles, and even suicide, into our lives in an unconscious attempt to restore balance to our family systems. The dynamics of this larger family system lie beyond our awareness, yet their effect on our lives is profound.

• Persons struggling with serious life issues, including health problems, depression or anxiety, chronic "survival mode," painful relationship patterns, or career struggles
• Couples wanting to create healthy and satisfying relationships
• Those seeking to deal positively with severe illness and death of family members
• Professionals — physicians, therapists, body workers, religious leaders and spiritual based healers — wanting to enrich their practices with new insights about health and human behavior
• All those wanting more love and connection in their lives and relationships
• Everyone is invited to family constellation, "Orders of Love," workshops